Crime Prevention - Teen Dating Violence
Are you going out with someone who...
Is jealous and possessive, won't let you have
friends, checks up on you, won't accept breaking up?
Tries to control you by being very bossy, giving
orders, making all the decisions, not taking your opinions seriously?
Puts you down in front of friends, tells you that you
would be nothing without him or her?
Scares you? Makes you worry about reactions to things
you say or do? Threatens you? Uses or owns weapons?
Is violent? Has a history of fighting, loses temper
quickly, brags about mistreating others? Grabs, pushes, shoves or hits
Pressures you for sex or is forceful or scary about
sex? Gets too serious about the relationship too fast?
Has a history of failed relationships? Blames the
other person for all the problems?
Makes your family and friends uneasy and concerned
for your safety?
If you answered yes to any of these questions you could be the victim of
dating abuse. Dating violence or abuse affects one in ten teen couples.
Abuse isn't just hitting, its yelling, threatening, name-calling. Its
also saying "I'll kill myself if you leave me". Its obsessive phone
calling, and extreme possessiveness.
What if your partner is
abusing you and you want out?
Tell your parents, a friend, a counselor, a
clergyman, or someone else whom you trust and who can help. The more
isolated you are from friends and family, the more control the abuser
has over you.
Alert the school counselor or security officer.
Keep a daily log of the abuse.
Do not meet your partner alone, nor let him or her in
your home or car when you are alone.
Avoid being alone at school, your job, on the way to
and from places.
Tell someone where you are going and when you plan to
Plan and rehearse what you would do if your partner
How to be a friend to a victim of Teen Dating violence.
Most teens talk to other teens about their problems. If a friend tells you
he or she is being victimized, here are some suggestions on how you can
If you notice a friend is in an abusive relationship,
don't ignore signs of abuse. Talk to your friend.
Express your concerns. Tell your friend you're
worried. Support, don't judge.
Point out your friend's strengths many people in
abusive relationships are no longer capable of seeing their own
abilities and lack confidence.
Encourage them to confide in a trusted adult. Talk to
a trusted adult if you believe the situation is getting worse. Offer to
go with them for help or counseling.
Never put yourself in a dangerous situation with the
victim's partner. Don't be a mediator.
Call the police if you witness an assault. Tell an
adult--a school principle, parent, guidance counselor.
What can we all do to help.
Start a peer education program on teen dating
Ask you school library to purchase books about living
without violence and the cycle of domestic violence
Create bulletin boards in the school cafeteria or
classroom to raise awareness.
Perform a play about teen dating violence.
Be aware and concerned of what is happening around you!